When children die

One of the most painful experiences we as human beings can have is when a child dies.

The world is violent. Wars, crimes, terrorist attacks, natural catastrophes, epidemics, famine, murders, abuse up to death, accidents, fire, dereliction up to death, etcetera and so on…

Predictions for the future are frightening for many of us. It is said that in the very few years to come (until 2012), the world population would be reduced to 1/3 or even 1/4. One talks about natural catastrophes and even about a third world war. (The latter can in the actual state of the world regrettably world not be excluded… even though it would be the most stupid idiocy of this humanity!) In 2010 we experience a remarkable increase of catastrophes, so far we every month had a big earthquake and then a volcanic eruption, followed by an enormous oil catastrophe, devastating fires, vast floodings and big landslides. More often than in a monthly pace. It may only be a matter of time until it hits the European mainland…

As concerns the Mexican Gulf oil catastrophe which makes the sea full of reddish-brown oil that mixes with the water and floats on top of it, cf. Rev 16:3: “And the second angel poured out his vial upon the sea; and it became as the blood of a dead man: and every living soul died in the sea.”

No one yet knows if it is true. But we will soon know if the predictions are correct, or (after all) not.

And if they should be more or less correct, the death of children touches us most. For what were they born if they again have to leave so soon? Why should they experience such suffering?

Actually, we might first ask how big that suffering is. Is it really worse than when adults die? Or in many cases even less? Who suffers most – the child or the parents who loose it?

We too easily forget that the child has (or rather is) an immortal soul and that its soul doesn’t suffer after death. Not any more, not at all, even though it may have done so before it died. Then such suffering has definitely come to an end for it! However, the soul of the child can take part of our suffering from its death. We think that the child is no more there, but its soul wants to tell us: “Don’t be so sad! I am still here! You just can’t see me any more. I am so well now, much better than I ever was before!” But the parents don’t see the child, since it is now in a soul state, and they don’t hear these words. Thus actually they are the only ones to suffer… seeing only their loss. They no more have the child and they don’t understand that the child really doesn’t suffer (any more)! How should it be able to (still) suffer in the soul state? If it has suffered before, it is now free from it! Would we rather have the suffering child with us? Only so that we still have it here? Should it instead continue to suffer – actually because of us! Would that not be a bit of egoism? However unconscious it may be…

It is, of course, hard for us parents to see it from the perspective of the child. We rather see only ourselves.

I had persons in regressions, who experienced themselves as unwanted in the mother’s womb and actually tried to die in there. I begin with that, because that is with what our incarnation begins with. They wanted to go away from there, back into the light from where they came. But it didn’t work and they were born, otherwise those clients couldn’t have come to me… It can, therefore, be assumed that in many cases of miscarriage, the soul was successful in leaving and went back to the light! It wanted to have it that way!

One riddle in modern medicine is the “sudden child death”. It happens that a child rather soon after birth dies unexpectedly and for quite unexplainable reasons. Apparently, the child just stops breathing and the soul leaves. I had a couple of clients who experienced themselves lying there, being just born, and on the soul level saying to themselves: “What on Earth am I doing here?! I want to leave! I want to go back to the light!” Actually the same as described above for many a child in the womb, but shortly after birth ands not before.

When a child dies, I could quite well imagine that it in many cases wants to leave! But we don’t want to let it go…

But children don’t only die suffering, but also lively and happy – unexpectedly! Why should that be?  The explanation will obviously be very different from one case to another and there will be any number of individual reasons. There will often be karmic reasons for the child and/or for the parents, who experience this – or the life experience for this incarnation is already enough for the child. It isn’t really a child! In reality it is a soul in a child’s body. A soul that may be older and more experienced than the souls of the parents! For this soul, the short experience of an embodiment that ends already in the childhood may be sufficient, and then it happily goes on. Or the life took another turn than planned, so that it was terminated early, since the soul after all wouldn’t have the experience it came to have. Something came in between and it preferred to move on. I had a few such cases, too.

Many parents only experience their pain and they don’t know the joy of the soul that just left a body! And it happens that we through our pain cause much sorrow for the soul, which it didn’t really need to have. In the worst case, we tie the soul to us so that it cannot go on for a long time. From that the soul may then suffer! We usually do that much more when a child is dead than when an adult is. A woman was a widow, and we discovered that the soul of her husband was still attached to her. It said to her: “Please finally stop mourning! You hold me back that way so that I cannot go on!” Of course we have to pass through a phase of mourning, but not stay in it all the time! In such a way we don’t do anything good to that soul…

It has been shown by researchers like the late Prof. Ian Stevenson that children are born with fragments of memories from the past, which fade around the age of 5. The following allegedly true story (I have it from a magazine in which it was published a few years ago) illustrates that they not only have memories of a past incarnation, but also of the soul state they were in before they came into this life.

A little girl had a younger brother and the parents had a baby-phone for monitoring him, when he was alone in his room. One day the girl asked the parents to let her be alone with the brother for a while. They wondered about it, but agreed. They listened through the baby-phone and heard the girl say to her brother: “Tell me about heaven. I begin to forget.”

Another story was reported to me in an e-mail from California. The man is a vegetarian and, therefore, no one in the family wears leather. He hates hockey since his father often took him along to hockey games against his will when he was a child. Therefore, no one in the family talked about hockey and they never watched hockey games in TV. One day his little daughter asked: “Why doesn't my son come to see me any more?” – “When did you ever have a son?” – “When I was an old lady!” – “How was that, then?” – “He used to come in his leather coat to take me to the hockey game.” ...

I now wish to tell a story from India, which I find quite illustrating.

The king of Kashi, later called Varanasi (Benares), went for a walk along the river Ganges and met a wonderfully beautiful woman. He said to her: “You must become my wife! I will do anything you want for it!” – “Yes”, said the woman, “but on one condition: that you never question what I do!” The king agreed. After some time the first child was born and the woman brought it to Ganges and drowned it! However, the king had promised to never question what she did. Six further children were born and the same thing happened. Then the eighth child came and now the king couldn’t hold himself back, any more. Before she could take it to Ganges, he said: “Why to you drown all our children!?” – “Now you have questioned what I do and therefore I will leave you. But first I want to tell you why. In reality I am not human, but the goddess Ganga.” And then she told the following story.

In the deva-world – a kind of world between our human level and the level of the world of God, the prime creator, who the Indians call Brahman (because they, too, know that high above there is only one God even though our theology wants to accuse them of polytheism, since it doesn’t know better) – lived the eight Vasus, who in that world made many and sometimes rough jokes. There also was a rishi, a highly spiritual deva, who had a wondrous cow called Kamadhenu. The Vasus wanted to tease him and stole the cow. He came home and saw that the cow was missing. With his clairvoyance he immediately discovered what had happened and came furious to the eight Vasus to take the cow back. “For punishment you will be born as humans!” – “Oh no, not that! Please take this curse away from us!” Now it is so that a curse cannot just like that be reversed, but it can be alleviated. “Well then! You will immediately come back here again, but not the one of you who had the idea to steal the cow. He shall remain human.” Thus they were born as sons of the king, but immediately set free again. They rejoicingly rouse up from Ganges: “Wonderful! I must not be a human, after all!” But the eighth child was the one, who should remain human, and when it was born, the king had asked and it wasn’t drowned.

Seen “from above”, things look differently from what they look like “down here”! To enter a human body is, seen from above, almost like dying, and leaving it almost like a birth – being born back to the light world. The perspectives from a higher reality are not the same as from here.

It is obvious that normal persons do anything possible for their children, so that they will have it as good as can be. Yet in the present world situation the questing increasingly becomes actual about how many children we may have? What does this world have to offer them, in which we put them? What future may we be burdening them with? What can they expect? What do we do to all the children in the world when we keep letting them become more and more?

This raises the question of what we have to learn from the overpopulation catastrophe that is on its way. A link to ponder on is http://www.worldometers.info/

EVERY SECOND THERE ARE at present almost THREE PERSONS MORE IN THIS WORLD!!! The net figure: births minus deaths. This means 150 more every minute, 9000 more every hour, 215 000 more every day…

Since January 1, 2010, more than 7 million hectares of forest were lost this year. Almost 3.8 million hectares of arable land were lost due to soil erosion. More than 9.3 million hectares land became desert. Almost 8700 species of living beings (animals and plants) went extinct (the last one of its kind died). [The numbers are valid for August 18, 2010.] The true reason for all this is not some natural process, but the destructive ecological effect of the population increase

Now many say: “God will do something about it”, and they continue as before. Yes, God will do something about it  – by means of catastrophes ... we leave him no choice ...