Do you really want to solve your Problem?

“But of course! What a question!” you say. And yet there are cases in which one both does and does not want to do it.

“What is this? What nonsense is that?” will be your next question. I will try to explain.

This has to do with the cooperation – or not… – between the conscious and the unconscious self. The conscious self seeks a solution, but the unconscious self resists it. How can that be? One such case is:

“The medicine is worse that the illness”          
One recognizes in a therapy – for example a regression therapy – that the cause of the problem is a trauma in the past that one does not want to go through again. The unconscious self resists more or less in this sense: “If I have to go through that, I rather refrain from solving my problem. Then it is easier to live with it.” That leads to a block. We try to overcome it in the regression and that often works – but of course not always.

Another cause could in this case be that one has to face the fact of having been a perpetrator in a past life. Most probably the primary cause of the problem will be having had a trauma as victim. But that actualizes the question: “Why did I have to go through that?”

If a person would suffer without a reason it would be the extremely cruel and unjust! But when there is at least a reason, there could, after all, be some purpose and justice in the suffering…

What could the reason be if there is reincarnation? Logically karma! Karma is not punishment but a lesson (and there is also good karma: Who does something good experiences good consequences and who does something bad will face bad consequences).

If a person was a perpetrator and later (usually in another life) experiences a similar situation on the victim side: is there not reason and justice in it? According to this one will (in a regression therapy) actually expect that a victim experience is a consequence of perpetratorship. Because the experience would otherwise have no reason and justice… and that can hardly be… However, we are not sentenced to have a corresponding victim experience, but our soul actually seeks a lesson it knows that it needs for its continued development.

And if there is no reincarnation – where would we then find reason and justice?

We are all sitting in the same boat. Everyone has done bad things in the past, or we would not need to incarnate again. However, many clients resist more against seeing themselves as a perpetrator than as a victim. Then it may be difficult to get into an important part in the regression: releasing feelings of guilt from the perpetrator life (that the client probably still to day wears in the soul). But that would be the end of the karma.

Resistance in therapy    
Sigmund Freud wrote somewhere (I quote it from memory): “An essential part of the work of the therapist is overcoming the client’s resistance that wants to stay ill.” So it is also in regression therapy. One would like to have a therapist with magical powers. He should make us free from the problem without having to know the reason. Or at least we should not have to relive this reason in the regression. That is not possible!

In classical psychoanalysis, one tries to achieve this in a piecemeal way, attempting to approach the cause stepwise, avoiding re-experiencing the feelings and the emotions one then had. If that is not an illusion, it is in any case a process that can take years.

In regression therapy we try to clarify and solve the problem in one regression, and that can take 4-5 hours or even more. Is that really possible?

Confronting the cause of the problem 
Confronting involves facing the cause and grapple with it. In a regression, this is an essential part of it. We do not want to go in circles around the cause, like it is more or less done in psychoanalysis. We want go to it as directly as possible and then go through it. Unconscious resistance is not rare. It is like jumping into the cold water that would cleanse us, but we chicken out: “Not that” or “not yet, I don’t feel ready for it now.” That rather means: “I am not yet ready to solve my problem.” Maybe even (but unconsciously): “I first want to suffer a little bit more…” What is happening here? There are different variants and it sometimes has to do with something more than just “chickening out.”

The familiar uneasiness
Some of us carry a not too strong and yet negative feeling through life (usually since childhood). Maybe a basic mood of sadness. They feel it like this: “It belongs to me and I am so used to it. If I let go of it, I have nothing left.” They see only emptiness behind it. In the dialog with the “inner guide” in the regression they will soon understand that this emptiness actually is room for something new that would come instead of the sadness. For what? Maybe joy of living. “Do you then still want to keep that sadness?” Not any more and the person is ready to let go of it.

“If I suffer a little, I get attention”       
It is not very rare that one (like always mainly unconsciously) sees some advantage in suffering. One has attention and gratuity from people around and is cared for. “Does this attention really come from the heart of these persons, or rather from a sense of duty?” One realizes: from a sense of duty. “Is that what you really want?” – “No, I would rather have it from their hearts.” That the client can have, but not in such a way. Not trying to force attention from people through suffering (as a kind of blackmail). If the person opens himself (or herself) for fellow human beings and opens the own heart, most of the others will do the same. When this is realized, he (she) is hopefully ready to let go of painful feelings.

One wants to give the responsibility to others 
Who suffers a little may that way want to give responsibility and maybe guilt to others. It is so comfortable when one does not have to take responsibility for oneself (and maybe for others, e.g., a family). The others can do that. But in a relationship, in a family and so on, one is never really free from responsibility! A Swedish saying goes: “When two quarrel, it is never the case that only one is guilty.” Guilt is always on both sides. And if it comes to a conflict, both always share the responsibility! (However, the main part of the responsibility may in certain cases be in a past life, where the conflict really began.) If one can understand that – and also what one loses through such an attitude – one is hopefully prepared to let go of the feelings of suffering.

One wants revenge        
If the person, for example, was badly hurt in the childhood, one may unconsciously still want to suffer from it, so that “he (or she) can see what he (she) did to me.” Does he (she) really see that? Of course not! That is the last thing that person wants to see. So then one suffers for nothing… Once it becomes clear that this game is useless and only is attachment to the own suffering, it is easier to let go of it. It is so much better to allow oneself to feel good!

The price for such an attitude is always too high and it has a character of self-cheating. It is never worth keeping. Cf. http://www.christian-reincarnation.com/ResAbuse.htm.

An extreme example of unconscious revenge in rare cases: a woman knows that her husband has a lover. She develops cancer and the husband has to care for her and abandons his lover. Now the wife triumphs unconsciously. She has reached what she wanted and somewhere inside she thinks it was worth it – but, of course, it is not. She should instead have talked with her husband about the problem, but did not have the courage and instead preferred to play this game behind his back. But why did the husband have a lover? There are several possible explanations. If she in an honest conversation would recognize the cause and – maybe – also that she could herself give the man what (in his opinion) is missing, the problem could be solved in a loving manner. Or she separates from the husband and lives on free until she finds a better partner. But she does not dare to do that (often because of existential fears). In extremely rare cases it comes to a “last revenge”. Before she dies, she requests from the husband: “Promise me that you will not marry again!” (for example referring to the children as an excuse). And he does so in his feelings of guilt and later regrets it bitterly. He may unconsciously sabotage himself when trying to find a new partner (because of his promise). Such a blackmailed promise is invalid and one can easily become free from it.

Blocking feelings of guilt           
It happens that an unconscious feeling of guilt (often from a past life) does not allow to release a painful feeling. Somewhere inside one thinks that one would not deserve being free from it. The feeling whispers: “I have been so bad. I do not have the right to become free from the suffering.” A sad mistake! In most cases one has already learned the karmic lesson and the feeling of guilt has already done its job. Then it is high time to become free from it. In such a case we find out from where the person has the feeling of guilt and release it. It is really rare that it is not yet time to do it, for example because the person is in a corresponding karmic lesson to day, or because he (she) has to reconcile with someone (internally). In the latter cased we attempt to reach such reconciliation in the regression (cf. http://www.christian-reincarnation.com/Reconciliation.htm), and then the feeling can be released.

One did not release the whole emotional energy         
Negative or even (psychologically or physically) painful feelings that come forward when reliving a situation in the past are symbolically released in the regression (i.e., their energies) with the assistance of the “inner guide”. We then return back to the situation to check if the whole feeling is gone. We sometimes find that there is still a rest of it left that we also release. What we want to have at the end is that the situation is relived in a neutral way, or that only positive feelings remain (which are not released). It may happen that the person cheats a bit and does not admit to the regressor or to himself that there is a rest. Either because he wants to quickly terminated this part of the process, or for one of the above mentioned reasons. The remaining rest stays in the person and can still make problems.

The “therapist killer”    
There are rare cases of persons who go from one therapist to another with a feeling of “He is no good, either. He did not help me.” Inside that person a little devil triumphs: “Ha! I again tricked out a therapist and successfully defended my problem!“ Such cases are the most difficult ones… Some such persons really make their problem to a “hobby”. They know to analyze it and dress it in psychotherapeutic concepts, but it is still there. A game that can continue years or even decades, maybe the whole life. (But psychoanalysts make a lot of money from it… cf. http://www.christian-reinkarnation.com/Freud.htm).

Influence from attaching negative entities      
In uncommon cases there can be an influence from a soul of someone who died or even a negative entity (cf. http://www.christian-reincarnation.com/AttSouls.htm). It may especially in the case of an entity be the case that it wants to maintain power over the person and hinder the release, since it can use a painful feeling for that purpose. When such is the case, it is normally (again…) unconscious. In the regression we may nevertheless find out that this is so. (An entity may in rare cases even cause physical pains. It may also happen that others unconsciously feel that presence and, therefore, avoid having to do with the person.)

Reconciliation    
Under the bottom line of it all is being able to forgive the ones who caused us to have soul pains. That is the final liberation. But how can we forgive something like that? As has been mentioned above if there is (from cosmos, creation, God) a true justice there will also be no suffering without a reason, because that would be the greatest injustice one can imagine. When the reason is recognized and one has an overview over the whole context, one can forgive! In a way according to a principle that Buddha has mentioned: “Regard everyone who hurts you as your teacher.” It is not easy, but certainly the right thing to do. One may then even discover that the “perpetrator” to day was one’s victim once in the past, so that he also has something to forgive and we attempt to reach this mutual reconciliation in the regression.

To have both “the penny and the bun”           
In some cases one may, as a German saying goes, want to have both the coin and the bread. One wants to have a solution of the problem but not really accept the real cause as true. Maybe it was not really like that, maybe it was only imagination or fantasy, or somehow symbolic. But from where did then the soul injuring feelings come, which we (hopefully) released. Were these also imagined? Can you really imagine a feeling that has no cause? Are there really phantom feelings?* That way it is rather done by halves and the problem is not yet completely solved…

* In conventional psychology one likes to talk about symptom displacement, projection and the like, which to me in general appears a bit fanciful and makes me think of it as a phantom theory, even though I cannot exclude that it can happen. Who suggests that may rather seek to discredit the so called reincarnation therapy and grasps such a straw to not have to admit that there could be such a thing as a past life. The real “symptom displacement” is then the reverse, attempting to explain a real cause in the past (in a past life or, maybe, in the “sacred world” at the beginning of today’s life since one wants to preserve the nimbus of the parents), as a way to save a preconceived idea.